***HERE'S HOW TO SAY YOUR HIGHER FEE WITH CONFIDENCE***

***HERE'S HOW TO SAY YOUR HIGHER FEE WITH CONFIDENCE***

If you want your clients to value you and not bat an eye when you state your raised fee, you have to unashame your own money desires. Money shame is one of the key reasons for not being fully confident when it comes to your feelings about your fees.

For example, recall the last time you hesitated to say your new higher fee.

The instant sting of shame you probably felt as you thought about that fee conversation is the actual cause of the hesitation. It is by processing and deconstructing that money shame, that you reclaim your power to fully express confidence regarding money.

The dormant sense of money shame that got awakened during that last fee conversation is a suppressed emotion that comes from your childhood when your parents UNCONSCIOUSLY rejected, ridiculed or downright shamed you for your talking about money in a natural free-flowing way.

Because you loved your parents and depended on their support, you shut down your innate free flowing feelings about your relationship with money and you outwardly expressed the money shame behaviors that your parents condoned.

They said, “Money doesn't grow on trees.” So you hid your curiosity around how money was created. (Hint, someone literally just decided to use coins and dollar bills instead of cattle and precious stones, assigned those objects values and called them money).

When you shut down that first time your parents told you not to connect with money via creativity and abundance, that’s when the money shame dynamic that’s alive in you today formed.

This dynamic is alive because there’s a core unprocessed memory that’s feeding your brain faulty information and unconsciously making you act not in your own best interest.

Desire for money as you express it now (attached to shame) is not authentic to you. It shows excessive need for validation which pushes people away, as it is the exact opposite of owning your power. It’s a child’s need directly related to money trauma your caregivers unknowingly inflicted to protect you.

Still you can’t stop yourself from doing it when relating to clients today because it’s tied to the money shame cycle you were trained to be in as a kid. It’s like your mind-body system is looking to do something so it can feel ashamed and confirm the experience and beliefs of the past.

The overprotective trauma brain always seeks evidence to confirm its existence, until new awareness and truth are brought through.

Breaking the trauma cycle, by discovering the truth of exactly what happened around money when you were little, and healing the pain, is what frees you to act naturally and confidently around money, instead of acting from panic. It is that energetic switch that creates a different and upgraded energy field around you and attracts those clients who see and recognize your brilliance, as well as inspires those you already interact with to update and improve how they see you and behave towards you. And this not by trying to change them but by changing yourself.

You might be a little skeptical about this, especially if you’ve already tried to address this issue by working on your mindset, following numerous daily practices meant to break this cycle and align you with a positive money version of you, without success. That kind of experience can make you feel pretty bad about yourself.

So let me explain a bit more on how money trauma works, this way you can understand why using mindset tools, and other will-based self-help alone, can never help you address this challenge.

The core reason why your will on its own can’t override your money trauma pattern is that your will is also in trauma mode. Although the rejection and shaming you experienced as a child isn't happening now and decades have passed, parts of your will were affected and rigged by that initial programming so they didn’t have a chance to fully expand past the age when the trauma happened.

And just in case you feel I’m being to liberal with the term trauma, and you’re thinking “I never experienced any money TRAUMA per se,” consider how intergenerational trauma works. Research has shown that the effects of trauma can be intergenerationally passed on through epigenetic mechanisms. Meaning, the effects and behaviors of past experiences can be inherited. As a Black person living in the US or really anywhere in the world you have some connection to historical traumatic economic experiences. And because of ancestral trauma and its effects, the reality your will is playing into and creating is still limited by the past. That’s why you can not change your lived experience with only your will’s perspective.

What can help you make the shift is including your emotions in your money transformation process. Because it is the suppressed emotions you never got to express that are keeping the false limiting beliefs alive, and those beliefs are creating the state of panic that you operate in which makes you act ashamed of money.

You see that shame is not your natural genius self-expression but a faulty way to protect you from the deeper old money rejection from the past. That trauma loop playing on repeat gets released when you have a safe space and are gently guided to correctly emote what you feel and speak what you think. It is in allowing yourself that freedom to be all you are that unleashes the freedom to confidently express your confidence outside of the trauma loop.

In addition, when you realize that the money shame you feel is actually not yours but instead belongs to your parents and their parents and your whole genetic line and ancestry, you can consciously honor their past struggles and transform that energy into power that returns you to being a fully sovereign being in your money experience.

This allows you to expand instantly, know what you want, stand by your choices, not let anyone deter you from your dreams, and go boldly after them. By doing this you create a renaissance in your being, in your soul and in your energy body, so you easily jump timelines and start to operate at optimal levels almost instantly – the ones you were meant to embody all along.

And when you recognize and own your money story fully, others do too. Because you take the time to build your self-expression and create your own valid money values that work for the outcome you desire to see and fully believe in, your clients will embrace your fee change, because you’re no longer asking for their permission to value yourself.

But of course, if undoing your own money shame were simple you would have already made these changes. That's where working with me can help, because I can spot patterns in the way you operate that you might not see, that are keeping you from confidently charging $200 to $350 per session or becoming so confident in your skills that you boldly offer 4 to 5 sessions as in an advance paid package at $700 to $1,500 a month.

This is the money mindset transformation I offer in my 12 week program.

In the program you get 1-on-1 coaching calls; recordings of coaching calls; fee conversation role-plays; weekly assignments delivered via brief (7 to 5 mins.) audio lessons; plus, I won’t just tell you what to do. I’ll hold your hand step-by-step through your entire money mindset transformation. The program price is in the mid-4 figures right now; it's on the lower end of the range, but I will be raising it throughout the year. Payment options are available.

The program works best for established Black Women Therapists (Social Workers, Psychotherapists, Healers, Reiki Masters, Yoga Teachers, Nurses, etc.) who are ready to raise their private practice (session) fees, but know their money mindset is the main thing stopping them. You’re pretty sure about who you help and what you help them with (niche), and you aren’t debating between a bunch of different things. You’ve been earning $5K to $50K per month, but you’re seeing too many clients or you just want to earn more and spend a lot less time doing it. I can help you to do the internal work necessary to go from 20 clients to only 10 clients per week at $200-$350+ per hour.

If interested in the offer, send me a DM

In your initial message, please include the following:

Your expertise (niche)

Your current fee

Your income goal for the next 12 months

Look forward to hearing from you.

P.S. I’m accepting clients right now into my 1:1 container. If we’re a good fit for each other, you can start as early as this week.